FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT

I finally figured things out, which is a good way to start my venture out of this doomed phase. If you are a reader, you can easily get what I am referring to, 'cause for the past months all I did was write what's inside the mind of a 22 year-old girl, having problems with adult-ing. And as you can see, mine was really messy. I am making this post now, as contrary to the previous ones I've made. I am writing this to help my lost, beloved self, and the stranger reading this at the moment, who might also be asking "What now?"



First, I am going to tell you .. This phase is normal. It's called "quarter-life crisis" (or mid-life crisis to some). Plus, I am no expert in life but here are the things I've learned/realized so far ...

➳ It's supposed to be JUST a phase, it's up to you how long you'll stay in it.

➳ MIND OVER MATTER. If all you do is doubt and think of the negative, you'll never get out.

➳ There's no point in comparison. Mind your own business. - Your friend might be getting married in a month, someone your age might have purchased his own house already, an old mate might be having a promotion in his first job .. while you are here lying on your bed, watching kdramas all day. I know how hard the situation is, so quit being tough on yourself and stop comparing, it will lead you to nothing.

➳ Start claiming what you WANT to be.

➳ The most important of it all is think that you CAN. You can't jump on the "act" phase without starting on the "think" phase. Again, MIND OVER MATTER!!!

➳ Let's say, your goal is to become a ''successful adult'', you must become an adult first .. then success will be easier to reach.

➳ Fake it until you make it.  - It's hard, I know. Being used of always depending on someone or something your whole life.. adult-ing might be stressful. But you should accept that you are here now and you can't go back! Teenage will never happen again. So start acting like a real adult, until you're not acting anymore. How? ...

➳ Lessen the ranting, whining and complaining. Do the job instead.

➳ Plan a WISE routine and do it everyday. Gone are the days of whole day Facebook + sleepless nights on YouTube, ayt?

➳ Be more productive. Learn a new skill or improve a talent. Focus on becoming better than the person you are before.

➳ Seek for inspiration. As for me, reading encouraging blogs works. They're great source of motivation.

➳ Dream a new dream. 20 something is still young. If your dreams when you are in college didn't work out, having a new dream now that you are older and wiser than before is not a bad idea, I guess? 

➳ Keep in mind that you can't stop now. Despite all your doubts and fears.

➳ Only you, can figure out what you want, and you are the only person who can help yourself in getting it.

➳ ACT > TALK

➳ Be grateful of what you have with you, and you'll feel better.

➳ Smash the idea that you're inside the quarter-life crisis.

➳ Lastly, pray. That eventually, He will help you in whatever you are going through. And BELIEVE that His plans for your life are always better than your plans.

Today might be a little blur, but who knows what tomorrow will bring?

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C R E D I T S

Writer: Ronalene Soluta

Blog link: http://www.ronalenecs.com/